SIGNS THAT YOU’RE DEALING WITH EMOTIONAL PAIN
Emotional pain is a big term that applies to a wide array of painful emotional experiences. It’s just as serious as physical pain and it should be taken seriously. It molds the way we respond and interact with the world in good and bad ways.
Becoming aware of your emotions and reactions to stress and pain can be beneficial in maintaining and improving your mental health.
Below are some signs that show and tell you’re dealing with emotional pain.
- You have excessive altruism – you’re disinterested and have a selfless concern for the well-being of others
- You micromanage – you tend to control every part of the situation and every small detail. Micromanaging is often seen as a personality trait but can also mean that you need control and have difficulty trusting others. Maybe there was a time you felt out of control of your environment and micromanaged to compensate for that. It is important to adjust the route of your trust issues.
- You isolate yourself – humans are social creatures that need interpersonal contact to learn and grow. However, emotional pain often springs from rational conflict or trauma which can result in isolation as a coping strategy that creates a perceived sense of safety. Without social contact or support, you can become your own worst enemy. Isolating yourself can intensify unhealthy thinking patterns which are challenging to retrieve from.
- You’re a perfectionist – perfectionism is a common cognitive distortion that can lead to having unrealistic standards which can lead to excessive people-pleasing and over-achievement.
- You ruminate about your problems – rumination happens when you replay a situation in your mind over and over again. Analyzing a situation or emotion beyond what you can control can be damaging leading to depression and anxiety.
- You form toxic relationships – if you constantly form toxic relationships with others, it could be a sign of emotional pain. Being a victim of abuse can lead to a cycle of toxic patterns and behaviors in relationships whether you’re an abuser or a victim of abuse.
- You constantly rush or worry – being in a constant state of business or panic is often a sign of internal pain. Unhealthy work-life balance or even workaholism can be accompanied by low self-esteem and fear of failure.
- You experience physical pain – when you find yourself experiencing somatization that is emotional distress manifests in physical symptoms e.g., feeling your muscles tensed up when stressed or headaches.
- You’re only attracted to depressing music – listening to music can be a powerful way to release your stress but when attracted to only sad and depressing music can reflect your internal state. Sad music can be an addictive coping strategy and one may feel feelings of despair rather than distracting you from it.
- You have angry outbursts or frequent mood swings – anger is a normal reaction to being hurt or betrayed, however, when you accumulate emotional pain throughout your life, any situation that goes differently from what you expect can trigger an emotional flashback. Along with anger, you may also experience shame, doubt, fear, and guilt in response to emotional distress. These crippling emotions can bring about mood swings.
Those are just a few signs to show that you’re dealing with emotional pain.
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