Men are visual beings, but sight is not their only input! Defining women as “sex objects” has become the defining representation in our current society through our media. “I belong to my lover, and he desires me” – Songs of Songs 7:10
So, why do men objectify women? The word is clear. As a husband, you should desire your wife. Value her as a valid role in your life and family. What’s the difference between objectification and desire, you ask?
- Objectification is the action of degrading someone to the status of a mere object.
- On the other hand, desire is a strong feeling of wanting to have something or someone in this case.
There is trouble because a sex object soon becomes a thing and depreciates. Boy! I hate being a thing, and so does your wife! No man should treat a woman like an object, nor an object like a woman. Amazingly, some men value their cars, businesses, etc. more than they value their wives.
Ironically, when the car is written off, business is closed, and you are fired, that same woman you despised will be the one to take care of you. The most painful part is; you may never be able to forgive yourself, which affects your wife even more.
Remember, no woman, including your wife, was created to be an object; your wife is an image-bearer. I hear of so many complaints where husbands touch their wives only when they want sex. This is the only time a man is nice to his wife, sad, right?
But, this shows how husbands have poorly invested emotionally in their marriages. They really don’t care if their wives are in the mood or not, happy or sad. Boss, how do you jump on your wife like a horse? So, who prepared her for you? You were not together when your hormones were preparing you! Sex should be mutual. Both should enjoy and be fully satisfied.
Only boys who exploit their wives, real men respect their wives and care about how they feel. I talked to a friend, and she told me that she waits for her car to warm up (for like 15 minutes) in the morning before driving. If this can be done to a car, which is an object, why would you jump on your wife then expect her to ‘take off’ there and then?
What do I mean? Men acting like they know that women are made in God’s image and deserve to be respected and treated with dignity, for they are image-bearers. This is how God wants us to operate, and the Bible is clear in the book of Genesis 1:27 – so God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
Women are image-bearers, not images to amuse and arouse the sexual appetite of boys. Real men respect their women and don’t treat them like objects. They are aware that a woman’s body does not define her worth, and they value a woman for far more than only her body.
1st Peter 3:7 – Husbands, in the same way, be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life so that nothing hinders your prayers.
Be very careful about how you treat your wife for it’s through her that favor is bestowed upon you; he who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord. This won’t happen if all your wife does is cry because of how you treat her.
You maybe doing well in the marketplace, but the question is, “are you happy?”
Author: Paula Tome
Founder: Raising Marriage Remnants
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