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I know you have been married for years now and wish someone told you about the connection truth (soul, body spirit) before you settled with your supposedly wrong mate. But, hello it is for your good. You ask me how? Follow me.
Don’t be too hard on yourself, Jacob was in a mess too remember? But, it worked out for the good of us all; Christ was born.
Jacob fell for Racheal and he was made to work for seven years. This was like a few days because his love for Racheal was so great. Love is patient and can endure everything you know.
But, we all know he was tricked and given Leah (tender eyes) whom he considered as a wrong mate. She would hurt his eyes as your spouse is doing now. O my goodness, after 7 years of labor he was given the wrong woman!
However, he was willing to work for 7 more years to get Racheal, the love of his life. I know you can relate.
When the Lord saw that Leah was loved less than Racheal, He made it possible for her to have children but Racheal remained childless. Racheal threatened Jacob to give her a child or she will die. Genesis 30:1
Well, Racheal later had children and they killed her. Be careful of what you ask from God.
Prayer is reporting for duty not giving God orders. What you desperately pray for may end killing you. Pray with wisdom and revelation.
Jacob on his death bed summoned his sons and told them to bury him next to Leah – Genesis 49:31. What? The wife who was a mistake and was fooled to marry? The one who would hurt his eyes?
Leah was a mistake, yes but she produced a son Judah (praise) from whom Christ came from. Indeed, God works in ways we can’t understand right?
Now, you think your wife or husband is a mistake. But can I tell you the truth? That is a lie from the deepest pit of hell. Still not understanding? Keep it here.
That day you said, “I do” you both became a perfect match before God. Whereas he/she hurts your eyes or breaks your heart, from him/her just like Leah will come Judah/Praise. Why do you ask?
You will seek God in ways you would not have done if you had an ideal marriage. You are going to talk to God and depend on Him through prayers as well as obeying His laws.
What you get in prayers is sustained in prayers. And, you will say at the end of your days, “bury me near Leah”
Embrace your spouse please don’t chase him/her away.
Yes, you do not understand it but through your hurting spouse, you have known God more and developed a vibrant relationship with God.
A mentee came to my inbox the other day and told me, “My husband has changed but has this one weakness he doesn’t seem to let go” I asked her, “If God changed your husband now would you still seek Him with the same vigor?” Can you say no to vacation in the islands because you are needed at a conference?
This what you should understand, God knows if He gave you that ideal spouse now He would lose you. So, He leaves that one thorn that will keep poking you thus pushing you to the secret place; close to God.
Well, this won’t be forever. Once God sees that you have given Him your all and can’t forget about Him, He will remove that thorn and there you will enjoy your spouse as He remains your priority.
Until you give God your all you cannot receive all of Him.
Embrace your spouse as a sign of obedience to God and as you do so, your spouse will discover your God. It is not a one-day thing I will not lie to you but I can tell you, it is worth it.

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Your spouse may be a mistake now but he/she will take you deeper with Christ in a way you would not have gone if you had the “right spouse”
Our society says, “Take pills and walk away” but I say this is not true. Instead, take up the cross and keep to the commitments you gave when you said, “Till death do us apart”
You gonna find Jesus and your children/family will do better because you embraced your spouse.
If single, you can escape this pain for God is not saying marriage and misery go hand in hand. He wants your marriage to be a taste of heaven if you go His way and be just that.
God is willing to redeem your marriage if separated or divorced. All you need to do is accept your faults and allow God to use them as a lesson to those behind you.
God is awesome, isn’t He? He tells us how to do things right and also tells us what to do if we get stuck in a raw deal.
Embrace it anyway for God will be there with you. Confess all to Him and enjoy your redemption!
Are you stuck? Write to us and we will guide you through and walk the journey with you.
Author: Paula Tome
Founder: Raising Marriage Remnants Foundation
Email: raisingmarriageremnants@gmail.com
Contact: 0786 499 899
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