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What happened to Kids having their parents as role models and custodians of morality?
Why has life become a case of who hustles more and who is successful depending on what they post on social media?
Life has become about who owns what, who travels more and to where and the major yardstick to success has become the negative publicity you gain by how much you can party, engage in illicit sex more than your peers.
Thanks to technology, kids see this and embrace it fully because to them these are some of the pre-requisites of being successful in life. These to them is the lie that life only gives chilled, sweet, and ready to drink lemonades, without having anyone to tell them you get lemons in life too, that you have to peel and bring out the best in them to get that chilled drink that you need, the reality side of life.
What has led to the tear in the moral fabric so much that what everyone is talking about is teenagers engaging in illicit sexual practices and underage drug abuse?
- Discipline has taken a back seat
Parents are more inclined to becoming friends with their kids forgetting that they never bore kids to become their friends, their first and most vital duty and obligation is to become parents first.
Parents are and should be the first line of instilling discipline in their kids.
I don’t want to sound too old school or too harsh but being friends with your kids shouldn’t be the primary objective of bringing them into this world, being their parent should.
- You cannot become what you can’t see
Initially parenting used to be something that brought a lot of light into one’s life but today with the bills piling up and the cost of living has gone up, parenting has been delegated to the ”house managers ”. These house managers are mostly young women that are still trying to find themselves and are not parents already.
Kids, therefore, pick up these young girls’ habits and not their parents’ habits, because these are the people that they spend most of their time with.
- Shift from Reality
Society has painted a very unrealistic picture of what wealth and success are in life, emphasizing more on materiality rather than value.
Society has shifted the mindset of young people to believe that success is owning a big house and driving a big car even if that job or business doesn’t positively impact society.
In society overnight success and weekend of partying is more success than building in steps and strides while working on something you are passionate about or are gifted/talented in doing.
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- Abandoning the Parenting role
Role = function i.e. the function of parenting in the society is development, ensure the well-being of children, molding morals of the society by the type of upbringing they give to kids. However, parents have abandoned the role and have become more inclined to the provision of basic needs to the kids without worrying about their upbringing, development, and well-being.
- Escape from the value of Culture
Truth be told even the old folks, had reservations about certain things that were dictated by tradition, but they never wrote all of them off because there was a sense in which they gave value to life and common human life practices.
Culture is what gives us the moral compass and guide to the Dos and Donts of society.
These are some of the tears that our society has caused in the morals, these are the things that are Impacting the lives of our children and causing them to act like they are doing.
It should however not be a question of who is to blame but rather identifying the problem and what causes the above issues. It is clear that parents and society have failed in the upbringing of the future leaders and if these issues are not addressed and measures taken to change the course of things, the damage caused to the moral fabric will be detrimental and it will take years if not decades to repair even with the reset button.
Author: Edwin K Gitau
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