The Wife Material

             Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor of the LORD(Proverbs 18:22)

Marriage is an institution that was ordained by God, it involves two people husband and wife. From the verse above, there is a Favor that comes with finding a wife. It’s worth noting that the Bible does not say getting, but finding so it requires effort and commitment. But, before you find a wife, we need to know what the role of a wife is from the ‘ordainer’ of this great institution, so what is the role of a wife?

I will mention the key role of being a Helper Gen 2:18 – And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.

The helper does not mean in any way that the wife is inferior but rather a catalyst(favor) into making a man become all that he was ordained to be by God, just as God helps us to become what He wants us to be.

Most of the times people get into a marriage without ever preparing themselves for this life long journey of learning most prepare more for the Ceremony than the Life-long Commitment. That’s why at times you get phrases like “I never expected it to be this way” This happens when you prepare in (after) Marriage rather than for (before) marriage.

We always fall into the challenge of looking for outer beauty rather than inner beauty. It should be the other way round, the inner beauty should radiate outwards, when the two combine then you find yourself a good woman that will help you become all that God ordained for you from the beginning.

One of the most important factors to finding a good wife is knowing what you stand for, the principles of life that you want to live with. These serve as the basis of finding a compatible partner especially one that agrees or lives by the same (almost all) principles that you live by and believe are key to a successful marriage.

Maturity is a factor that is often overlooked when choosing a partner, this applies to both the man and a woman. For a successful marriage you need mature partners and the four most vital areas that one needs maturity are:

• Physical: This is more about the age and also the physical outlook be it complexion, physique, etc but this should lean on the inner beauty then these should just be additives
• Spiritual: This is mostly faith-based, knowing what kind of person you want to be with in terms of religion, beliefs even traditions, what can you take, and who is off-limits
• Emotional: Having grown into a level of forgiving wrongs and knowing what situations require reaction and which ones require action
• Psychological: Having a mind of your own

The bible says Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24)

It is in the best interest of both man and woman to leave their parents so that they can grow and develop in their way to become the couple, parents, and people God ordained them to be, free from the influence of their parents and respective families.

Marriage is an Institution ordained, manufactured, and Instituted by God therefore if any issues and challenges arise (just like Toyota car owners go to Toyota center for repairs and servicing) go to God and make sure you always go to your meeting place with God for Servicing.

Author: Edwin K. Gitau, CPA (K)