Wish You Were Home Dad

The apex of Fatherhood is the ease to release. A father gives not withholding. It’s a busy world where you have to go out there and make a living. Work hard to pay the bills and give us a good life. We acknowledge your sacrifice and are thankful. Boy, we love you! 

Even so, we miss you at home. Your seat is vacant and no one can replace you. Not even the money you are toiling for; it can never sit in your place as a husband or a father. Do you know your sons and daughters are being bullied but they don’t have a man to protect them? Your wife has become the laughing stock in your neighborhood, but when are you home to defend her?

Sad to say, you have relegated your Spiritual responsibilities to your wives. And I ask, have you forgotten who you are? Priests and Prophets. Your home is your first ministry. Your source of authority. When you take your place at home, you rule in the marketplace. 

Unfortunately, we have many men who are ruling in the marketplace but failing at home. This is so disastrous. The reason why our morals are degrading? Lack of fatherhood! You laid down your guards and all you care about is your job/business, ‘boys’, football, alcohol and politics. 

Hooray, Covid-19 came and God brought you back to us. Your family has become a priority. The devil is very smart you know? Once he gets you to relegate and put your Spiritual guard down then, the family becomes helpless. An open field, the devil can attack now.

So much is happening in our society and am prompted to ask;-

1. Where are the Men?

Brave and Courageous

While I was growing up I knew any male child was brave and courageous. They defended us. Unfortunately, we have men who are defiling our girls and worst still our grandmothers. Who will defend us?

Work

He who does not work should not eat, the Bible says. Yet, we have men who now sit at home as their wives provide. I am not talking about you who have lost your job or closed your business. I grew up in a family where my father did nothing. He told us we are living on his land so he must eat. And did we have an option? We had to comply.

Serve Sacrificially

As a man, you should serve. Service to man is service to God. I know, there are days we fail to appreciate you but this should never stop you from doing the right thing. And by the way, we are sorry.

• Where are the Husbands? 

To Love the Wife and Children

As a husband, you should love your wife as your own body. He who loves his wife loves himself. No one hates his flesh but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church. My father never showed us love but in the village, they knew him as a good person. He treated them during Christmas while he left us with no food. How does it feel leaving your family without food but buying lunch for a colleague at work?

The best gift you can give your children is to love their mother.

To Provide

The Bible says he who does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel. It’s disheartening that we have husbands neglecting their families. And when the pockets run dry, you run back to your wife and children. I hope you don’t expect them to pity you. 

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord – Proverbs 18:22. The favor you receive through your wife should benefit the family. And as 1st Peter 3:7 says, treat your wife as a weaker partner and heir with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing hinders your prayers.

To be Accountable

Are you accountable to your wife? You being the head doesn’t call for a master-slave relationship. Rather, it’s more of teamwork. Involve your wife in your dealings, you are one what you do to her, you do it to yourself too.

• Where are Fathers?

To Discipline

A father disciplines his children. If you can’t manage your family, how can you lead in the market place?

To Mentor

A father should be a mentor. “Every father should remember one day his son will follow his example, not his advice” – Charles Kettering.

God is not an author of confusion. He has called you to be the head for a reason. Stop relegating instead, lead. Be the priest, to bring Spiritual covering and leadership in your home. Be a prophet, speak words of blessing over your wife and children.

Something great happens when you take your place. There is a grace bestowed upon you that makes things happen. When you know who you are and what you carry.

And with a prayerful wife by your side, men! You have the power to rule your world and dominate. You become a powerhouse! 

Arise and shine! Your glory is here!

Author:   Paula Tome

Founder: Raising Marriage Remnants Foundation

Email:     raisingmarriageremnants@gmail.com

Contact:  0786 499 899